Dear Mom,
As your child, I want to start by saying that I love you. However, I also want to address a certain behavior that you exhibit that has caused me pain and hurt over the years. It's time for us to have an honest conversation about your emotional abuse towards me.
What is Emotional Abuse?
Emotional abuse is a type of abuse that can be just as damaging as physical abuse. It involves a pattern of behavior that is meant to control, manipulate, or belittle someone. It can take many forms, including verbal attacks, gaslighting, and isolation.
How You've Hurt Me
Over the years, you've exhibited many forms of emotional abuse towards me. You've called me names, insulted me, and made me feel like I was never good enough. You've gaslighted me, making me doubt my own memories and feelings. And you've isolated me from friends and family, making me feel like I had nowhere to turn.
Why This Needs to Stop
I want you to understand that this behavior is not acceptable. It's not okay for you to treat me this way, and it's not okay for anyone else to treat me this way. Emotional abuse can have long-lasting effects, including anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. I don't want to carry this pain with me for the rest of my life.
What I Need from You
I need you to acknowledge what you've done and take responsibility for your actions. I need you to apologize and show that you're committed to changing your behavior. I need you to listen to me when I tell you how your actions make me feel, and I need you to respect my boundaries.
What Happens if You Don't Change
If you're not willing to change your behavior, I'll have to take steps to protect myself. This might mean limiting my contact with you or cutting off contact altogether. I don't want to do this, but I need to put my own well-being first.
Conclusion
Mom, I hope you can understand how your behavior has affected me over the years. I love you, but I can't continue to tolerate this behavior. I need you to take responsibility for your actions and make a commitment to change. If you're willing to do that, we can work towards healing our relationship. If not, I'll have to take steps to protect myself.